October 4, 2007

  • PRE-NUP


    QUESTION: WOULD YOU SIGN A PRE-NUP BEFORE GETTING MARRIED? WHY OR WHY NOT?


    THAT ONE IS EASY, HELL NO. IF SOMEONE WANTED ME TO SIGN A PRE-NUP THEN APPARENTLY THEY DO NOT TRUST ME OR KNOW ME AND THEREFORE SHOULD NOT BE MARRYING ME TO BEGIN WITH.


    I HAVE ALWAYS REALLY HATED THE FACT THAT WE EVEN HAVE PRE-NUPS. I FEEL LIKE IF YOU SIGN A PRENUP, YOU ARE ALREADY SAYING THE MARRIAGE IS GOING TO FAIL.



    MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS A RELATIONSHIP OF LOVE, TRUST, AND COMPASSION FOR ANOTHER PERSON.


    YES, I HAVE BEEN MARRIED SEVERAL TIMES, THESE WERE STUPID THINGS THAT I DID PARTIALLY OUT OF BEING IMMATURE, BUT MOSTLY OUT OF HAVING AN ABUSIVE LIFE AND LOOKING FOR LOVE. THANK GOD, I NO LONGER FEEL THAT I HAVE TO BE WITH SOMEONE TO BE HAPPY. TOOK ME A LOT OF PAIN AND HURT TO FIND THAT OUT, BUT AT THIS POINT, AS MUCH AS I MISS COMPANIONSHIP, I DONT FEEL THAT I WOULD EVER RUSH BACK INTO A MARRIAGE AGAIN. THE ONLY THING I GOT OUT OF MY MARRIAGES ARE MY FOUR GREAT SONS.


    ANYWAY, I HAD NO MONEY, I DIDNT MARRY INTO MONEY, AND WE SPLIT PRETTY MUCH WITH WHAT WE CAME INTO THE RELATIONSHIP WITH.


     


    IF I HAD MONEY, WOULD I ASK FOR A PRE-NUP? PROBABLY NOT, BUT I WOULD ALSO MAKE DAMN SURE THAT I COULD TRUST THE PERSON I WAS MARRYING AND THAT IT WAS GENUINE, IF IT WASNT, THEN I GUESS I WOULD LOSE WHAT I HAD.


    SO ANYWAY, WHAT WOULD YOU DO? I WILL EVEN WIDEN THE QUESTION, WOULD YOU MARRY FOR MONEY?


Comments (5)

  • Second question first... No, I would not marry for money.  Actually, don't think I'd ever remarry if something happened to my husband/marriage.  Once in a life is enough.  No, no prenup, but then, when you don't have much, there's not much to lose....

    Good to see you around again!

  • I've never had enough or known anyone with enough to even worry about signing a prenup. I don't have a whole lot of thoughts on the subject one way or another. I guess if I cared enough about someone, and signing one would make them feel better about marrying, maybe I'd do it. I know love is blind, and you can't always trust how you feel about someone, so I can see how someone might want reassurance. Maybe. Faced with the actual situation, I might feel different. Thing is, I don't think most pre-nups even hold up in an actual divorce situation. I think a good lawyer can find ways around them.

  • Oh, and if I had loads of money, at my age, I probably would not marry anyone.

  • No to marrying for money and no prenup either.  I marry on the basis of trust and if that's not there, I could give a hoot less about the rest.  Plain and simple.  LOL 

  • I doubt it...but if I was going to marry a billionaire and he wanted me to sign it, I can see why he'd ask.

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